Today 6 year old T came up to me with a smile on his face and said ”I’m going to destroy the Children’s House.” The Children’s House is the building we are in. I know T wasn’t serious about this, because I know his antics and his silliness. I don’t know the full story as to what influenced him to speak the statement, but my point within this was how such statements, which are really serious if you look at what the words are implying, were not serious to this child, because he did not actually MEAN it.
I only had a few moments with T before I had to continue with my work, but what I got to fit in with him were some questions like: But what about your brother (who is upstairs in the toddler group)? What’s going to happen to him? T said something like ”ok, I will wait until he finishes school and when I’m a grandpa I will destroy the children’s house” so then I ask but what if you have grandchildren and they want to go to the Children’s house?
My intent was to have T gain some awareness on the impact of his words, that saying something of such nature is actually serious, yet he made it not serious when it is said out of silliness/unawareness. Children may not actually be serious in what they express, but the actual words in the statement can be serious.
Take for example the words ”I’m going to kill you.” This is actually quite serious if you place those words on paper without context, but we use it as an expression of ‘getting back’ at another for what they did to us. If we are not really going to kill the person, then why are we saying it? Is it just an accepted and allowed expression we use without looking at what the words ACTUALLY are? Am I ACTUALLY REALLY going to kill someone? Or is it that I just want them to ”pay” for what they did to me (as a form of revenge)?
Did you know on average there is one murder PER HOUR in El Salvador? That means people actually LIVE and APPLY the words ”I’m going to kill you” and kill/murder people. This is why I firmly believe we need to be careful with what we say, to stop using expressions that support abuse, and harm onto others , and instead use expressions that communicate exactly what we mean, that in some way supports ourselves and others. The School of Ultimate Living is my favorite example of the type of education we all need to make sure our words are aligned in support of ourselves and our life.
There are so many things to consider and look at when it comes to what we express, and the words we use when we communicate with others. Obviously if we as adults are not serious or aware about the words we are using, our children will pick that up and live it out too.
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